As hard as it is to believe, there is a silver lining to every breakup and heartache. Yes, that’s right—even if your heart was broken. As someone who has been on both ends of this situation, I can tell you that the pain of being left behind will always be worse than the pain of being alone after losing a loved one. But perhaps more importantly, what happens next depends on how you handle yourself during this difficult time. Here are some ways to make sure you can turn your breakup into something positive:
Put it in perspective
- Breakups are a normal part of life. It’s important to know that your breakup is not personal, and it doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you. Instead of focusing on the negative aspects of your former relationship, try to focus on what went right.
- Don’t take it personally; this will help you move forward without the baggage of guilt or shame attached to your breakup. Even though it might feel like they’re taking something away from you by breaking up with you, they’re really just trying to find what works best for them at that point in time—and chances are it has nothing to do with you!
- Don’t feel obligated to stay friends with someone who has hurt or betrayed you by breaking up with them (or cheating on them). You don’t owe anyone anything after a breakup unless YOU want to be friends!
It’s not about you
This is the first thing to remember when dealing with a breakup. The person who broke your heart did it because they were not thinking about you, or even themselves, at all. They were thinking only of themselves and their own issues and problems. You may feel hurt and angry that this happened, but remember that it had nothing to do with you or how good a partner you are—it was just their decision to end the relationship for their own reasons that had nothing to do with how important you are in their lives.
Consider how both of you were treated
When we think about the other person, it’s easy to feel like they were a jerk. They hurt us and then left us. But if you really think about it, can you be sure that you didn’t also contribute to the breakup? Were you always patient with them? Did you treat them with respect when they were at their best or worst? The truth is that most people are not perfect and neither are we. There’s always room for improvement in our relationships—on both sides of the equation!
Plan something fun you wouldn’t do otherwise
One of the best things you can do for yourself during a breakup is to plan something fun. It’s important to keep a positive mindset and remembering that you don’t need to be in a relationship to have a good time. You might be tempted to cancel plans with friends or family, but don’t! Instead, consider planning something new like learning an instrument or taking up boxing—anything that will get your mind off the breakup and show yourself how much potential life still has for you! Go clubbing with friends or visit one of the popular Sydney brothels. It’s important to feel alive and able to move on after a breakup.
Take a class to learn about something new
You can take a class on anything you’re interested in. If you’re into art, there are classes for that! If you love cooking, there are classes for that! Even if it’s not your favorite subject ever, taking a class will give you the opportunity to meet people who share your passion and interests. Plus, learning new things keeps your mind active and can help boost your self-confidence by showing off what you already know (or learn) when making conversation with other students during weekly assignments or group projects.
It’s also a great way to spend time with friends who have similar interests as yours!
Create healthy habits for yourself
Exercise. It’s easy to get into a rut when you’re feeling down, but getting your body moving is an excellent way to clear the fog and feel more energized.
Meditate. Close your eyes and focus on breathing deeply – it’s an easy way to chill out and keep good vibes on the brain.
Journaling. Get all of those emotions out on paper instead of holding them in or bottling them up inside; this can help you figure out how you want things to go from here, which helps set a course for recovery from heartbreak (and also makes great material for blog posts).
Reading books about positive thinking and other mental health topics can also be helpful in getting yourself back on track after a breakup, as well as giving inspiration for future projects that could help distract from the hurt of losing someone important in one’s life (like starting a business).
If you’re experiencing a breakup, it can seem like the world has ended. But in reality, most people find that their lives are better after a breakup than before. You don’t have to be alone for the rest of your life just because one person didn’t work out in some way. You can take steps towards making yourself happier and improving your self-esteem by taking control of your emotions and actions during this difficult time.